“I would much rather play under pressure,” Nicotra said. “You feel like you have a little bit more control of what happens when you’re actively playing. As a coach, you just have to believe in the preparation and believe in the players and put the best product out on the field that you can. I think we have a really, really talented group this year and so for all of us — players and coaching staff — it’s going to be managing expectations, putting on blinders to what’s being said and really focusing on the journey and day-to-day preparation.”
Nicotra hopes to be able to use her experiences to help guide the Eagles players. She understands that they, too, will feel pressure.
“When you’re in high school at that age, it’s hard to put that all in perspective,” Nicotra said. “Everything seems huge. My goal is to help these athletes understand that lacrosse should be their most fun part of day. Pressure comes with the territory, but it’s about enjoying the process and having fun.
“It took me a long time to have fun playing. You always want to live up to expectations and you always want to impress people. You have to realize that’s not necessarily the end goal.”
Nicotra has been passing along advice to high school players for almost 15 years. After coaching four years at William & Mary, she returned to Baltimore in 2010. She helped Garrison Forest before coaching at Navy in 2015. She helped St. Paul’s for four years and then started her family. She helped a former Duke teammate at Roland Park before getting connected to McDonogh when her children enrolled.
“That piqued my interest, and obviously having kids in the school and wanting to be a part of the community, I stepped in and initially agreed to part-time,” Nicotra said. “Even during that part-time season, I just fell in love with the program and ended up spending a lot of time with the program. I jumped in with both feet from there.”
Cummings told her that she was stepping down for family and business reasons the day before addressing the entire team. Nicotra, who has run her own camps and clinics with Between the Pipes and Gold Medal Lacrosse & Goalkeeping, was caught off guard.
“I joined this program thinking that Taylor would be here for the long haul,” Nicotra said. “I think Taylor had that plan, and plans change. For me, I’ve always been very happy as an assistant. I really enjoy the coaching aspect of it. As a head coach, there’s a lot more to it, a lot more on the administrative side and various other levels of administrative stuff.”
Nicotra didn’t need much convincing to take over. She liked the culture of the McDonogh program and wanted to keep the fun going for a community that she values.
“Knowing the program, and knowing the culture, and knowing our support, knowing the school and administration, if I was going to be a head coach, this is the right time and the right program,” Nicotra said. “It did take some thought, and at the end of the day, I really believe in this group and what we’re building.”
Nicotra will continue to run camps through her businesses out of season, but her focus this spring will be solely on McDonogh. She steps into a big spot by taking over the No. 1 preseason team. It doesn’t reduce any pressure on her, but she’s equipped to handle it and thrive.
“It doesn’t lessen it,” Nicotra said. “I think in the grand scheme of things and having a little life perspective, as I age, you understand that being able to play this sport is a gift, and you need to enjoy it while you can do it.”