Carr knows coaches also play a special role in a player’s life, something she learned as an athlete and later as an assistant under Tucker, Jenny Levy and former Stanford head coach Amy Bokker. It’s a role Carr doesn’t take lightly.
“Something that has always stuck with me is, ‘Your influence is never neutral. You can either cast a room into darkness or light up the world,’” Carr said. “I really try to embody that every single day. As a coach, you do have the ability to change lives. I take a lot of pride and responsibility in that for my staff and the current team and the future.”
It’s why relationship-building will be part of the foundation of the Carr era at Towson. One of her first orders of business, before she was announced publicly as head coach, was to hop on a call with her new players.
“I shared a l little bit about what my values are and that it’s a journey that we are going to embark on together,” Carr said. “Creating relationships is, in large part, why we pick up a stick in the first place. You are able to create these amazing friendships.”
Carr and the Tigers stayed in touch over the next several weeks until they hit the field for the first fall practice on August 28. Then, it was game on. Offensively, the Tigers return their two leaders in points and draws from last season in Milana Zizakovic (41 G, 15 A, 57 DC) and Lindsay Marshall (45 G, 8 A, 72 DC). Both have impressed this fall.
“Milana is naturally a great lacrosse player,” Carr said. “She’s played box. She’s played in Sixes. She’s had such an incredible dynamic to her game and is willing to do whatever to help the team be the best. She’s an awesome leader in that regard.”
Marshall has a similar mindset — a film-watcher willing to put in the work when no one is watching (though Carr has noticed).
“She’s another one who, like [Milana], comes into the office and watches film or wants to get extra work in, doing whatever it takes to help better her game,” Carr said. “That culture of wanting to put in the work to be the best you can be is going to help the team’s success.”
The Tigers lose do-it-all midfielder Blair Pearre (43 G, 8 A, 51 DC, 17 CT) and starting defender Olivia Malamphy (25 CT, 23 GB), but Carr is confident in the defensive unit with veterans including Blair Goodrich (31 CT, 34 GB), Shannon Sullivan (16 CT) and goalie Jo Torres (.435 SV%) back.
“[Goodrich is] like a dynamite on the field,” Carr said.
Freshmen, too, may also work their way into the lineup — like most coaches will tell you, much of it is up for grabs at this point. What isn’t? Two fundamentals under Coach Carr.
“We want the people that are coming into our family to have a competitive and championship mindset that continue to push the envelope and are just ready to level up,” Carr said. “The other piece is to compete or play with joy. Joy is a catalyst for a lot of things that we do in life. When you can put a smile on your face and have fun in your heart, then whatever you are doing in your life is going to be smoother, more at ease and fun.”
In that regard, Carr is leading by example. It’s not hard to hear her smiling through the phone.