HOW DID YOU LEARN ABOUT RACE AS A CHILD?
AN: “When I got to middle school and my friends would come over, they would see my parents after games and say, ‘Oh, your mom is white.’ They had seen my dad before, so they assumed my mom was African American. I always thought it was normal. I didn’t see my mom as white, I saw her as my mother. As you get older, you get more aware of what’s going on around you. That’s when I realized I might not be normal to my friends.”
BRENT ADAMS: "My dad is black and my mom is white, so a lot was said without being said with them. It was more a lack of talking about race than them saying, ‘Hey, you need to accept everybody.’ There was an understanding that you see and treat people for who they really are. Not based on the color of their skin. If there was something in media I didn’t understand, my parents had a sense of grounding and tolerance and were able to effectively communicate in a way that gave me such a positive outlook on the world."
HOW DID YOU DEAL WITH RACISM IN LACROSSE?
AN: “I was aware of it but didn’t know what it meant until I was older. I have experienced racist things on the field, but it’s a matter of kids being young and saying dumb things. If it’s in the heat of the game, I usually try to let it roll off my shoulder, but it’s always in the back of my mind. After the game, I just think about it to myself and move forward from it. With what’s going on now, maybe I would have handled it a bit differently. I won’t hurt him, but maybe I can say something to set him straight.”
KA: “There were times growing up where I felt that difference, but I was different. I remember different games where people said a couple things. ‘Why are you playing lacrosse?’ I tried to brush it off my back. I vividly remember being called the n-word in the handshake line after a game we won. My friends who had heard what the kid said, they were the first to intervene. Racism happens, and that’s the sad reality of it. Now, it’s the kind of thing I wish I spoke up sooner.”
WHAT MAKES YOU PROUD TO BE AN AFRICAN AMERICAN LACROSSE PLAYER?
AN: “Playing a sport that is predominantly white, growing up playing lacrosse my role models were Jovan Miller, Kyle Harrison, the Bratton brothers. There are kids like me, that look like me, and they want to find someone in the game that looks like them, so they want to emulate what they do. I take a lot of pride in the fact that the sport is growing and becoming a more welcoming community.”
KA: “I really started to embrace it when I started to get older. Once I got to an age where I realize the sacrifice my family made for us, that’s when I felt proud. I went to Rutgers with black teammates like Alex Ball, Ryan Scott, Jules Heningburg, Chad Toliver and Branford Rogers, and it was awesome. Everyone thinks of lacrosse like the American Pie representation. The affluent white guys wearing Vineyard Vines, they’re preppy kids, and that’s not the case. It’s a beautiful thing that this sport can be as inclusive as it wants to be.”