Her cancer went into remission in November of 2016, but she finished the treatments in January to increase the chance that the lymphoma will never return. After spending the Super Bowl in the hospital with another infection, she returned to Villanova for classes and practices. Though physically, O’Connor was a shell of herself.
“I was probably in the best shape I could be in last fall right before I started,” O’Connor said. “That was probably a good thing. As you go on, you get smaller and smaller. I got really tiny. I lost 20 pounds. I don’t have much body fat to begin with, but I was skin and bones for three months.”
O’Connor served like an assistant coach. She started to work out, training on the sidelines with injured teammate Julia Arrix, and her mere presence helped a team that was struggling in a 4-12 season.
“Last year, we didn’t have the greatest beginning of the season, but knowing where Kathleen came from, no one threw in the towel,” Young said. “They all said, ‘We’re going to keep getting better and working. By the end of the season, we grew a lot.
“We were so young last year with the number of freshmen that played and we lost a huge senior class, but that team never gave up,” Young added. “I think it was because of Kathleen and learning from what she was going through. It meant we couldn’t throw in the towel. She didn’t throw in the towel when she found out her diagnosis. She went head on. That’s something that’s helping us this season too.”
Despite the long road to recovery, O’Connor has worked her way back into shape to be able to play at the Division I level again.
“I was training all summer so I was ready to come back and play,” she said. “I knew my lung capacity wasn’t where it was before and I wasn’t as strong as before. Being back with my team and being able to do the run test, with that adrenaline, it made me work harder and come back better.”
Last March, O’Connor was awarded the Nicholas E. Colleluori Award at the seventh annual HEADstrong Lime Light Gala in Philadelphia. The award is presented annually to “a survivor demonstrating heroics and perseverance in the fight against blood cancer,” according to the HEADstrong Foundation.
O’Connor and the award’s namesake coincidentally share jersey No. 27. The Villanova team will continue to raise funds for HEADstrong in honor of O’Connor’s experience.
“This was a terrible, terrible thing, but you can learn so much from it,” O’Connor said. “My team takes things harder than anyone else. Seeing something happen to someone close to them hit home for them.”
This fall, O’Connor’s comeback is still inspiring.
At a Villanova football game two weeks ago, she was named the female recipient of the Sister Mary Margaret Cribben Award for “a student-athlete who unselfishly sacrifices their time, effort, body and soul to lead and motivate his or her teammates in excelling for Villanova University through inspiration.”
“It’s very humbling to be someone’s role model,” O’Connor said. “I haven’t put too much thought into it. I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone, but I’ve learned so much about dealing with life. It’s changed my life and my friends’ and family’s. In a blink of an eye, something so drastic can change your life. You just have to control what you can and let go of what you can’t. I tried to control my attitude, and sometimes it was terrible, but you have to set yourself up in the best possible situation you can. I tried not to feel sorry for myself.”
O’Connor is appreciative of the gestures, but she has turned her focus to improving the Villanova women’s lacrosse team – and her return should help.
“Seeing her back on the field, it says you can win a big battle, you can overcome adversity and you can do it and get back to a good spot,” Young said. “It’s showing that when life throws you a curve ball or something unexpected comes up, use your support unit to help you get through it. Believe you can get through it and have faith about it, and you can overcome some of these things. It’s baby steps. Sometimes it’s little steps to win the big battle.”