Even before graduating, Mills had also started down a coaching path, serving with the highly regarded Yellow Jackets club program while she was still at Adelphi. It seemed like a logical step for Mills, who was the product of a true lacrosse family.
Brown’s father, Ray Mills, was an All-America defender at Hofstra in the 1970s, and in 2008, he became the fourth African-American inducted into the Long Island Metropolitan Lacrosse Foundation Hall of Fame. Her younger sister, Felicia, joined Marissa at Adelphi in 2012 and eventually became a two-time national champion and two-time All-American. Ray Mills coached both of his daughters during some of their youth and high school seasons on Long Island.
“He was demanding, but we always had the Slurpee rule,” said Mills Brown, an Islip, N.Y. native. “After a game or tournament, we would always get a Slurpee or cold beverage before we ever talked about the game or reviewed our performance. That was so positive.”
Mills is now married to an active-duty West Point graduate, Malcolm, and is the mother of an energetic 3-year-old, Nathaniel. The military life has taken the Browns all around the country in recent years. At each stop along the way, from Oklahoma to Texas to Colorado, Mills Brown has retained her connection with the game.
“Lacrosse has always been the constant,” Mills Brown said. “I’ve tried to stay involved with the game because it’s something that I really love.”
The same military life that steered her family around the country came full circle in 2020, bringing them back to Long Island. Mills Brown is now in her second season as an assistant coach at Molloy College, with full responsibility for the Lions’ defense.
“It’s been different to see and be a part of another Division II program on Long Island,” she said. “But I still use some of the same lessons, like practicing with pace and purpose, that I learned at Adelphi.”
As for that 2011 magazine cover, which was one of the first ones to feature a Black female player, Mills Brown says that it’s still making an impact.
“I can’t tell you how many times young girls have reached out to me because of that and shared their pride in seeing somebody like themselves playing the sport,” she said. “Representation is important and definitely leaves an impact. It’s exciting to see more diversity in the game, but there’s still more work to do.”