The siblings share their mother’s flashing speed. They get their mental toughness, resilience and drive to be better from their father. Frank Long often used inspirational quotes to illuminate their path through high school. He could be tough, but he was also the first one crying tears of joy.
“If your goal is to be a Division I player, there’s a price to be paid for that,” he said. “We just tried to let them know that what you do in the offseason will make the difference in the season.”
The siblings grew up loving basketball, but their height limited their prospects beyond high school. Alyssa Long followed her brother to his lacrosse tournaments, and by the end of middle school, both saw bright futures in lacrosse.
“He’s the epitome of, ‘Watch me, I’ll prove you wrong,’” Alyssa Long said of her brother. “He passed that down to me. We definitely battled a lot, but in the long run, it helped. I’m super competitive. I hate losing. That stems from as early as I can remember doing things with him.”
Both combine a quick, scrappy tenacity with speed to create an advantage in lacrosse. While their playing styles are similar, Alyssa is considered the more vocal of the two — though she wouldn’t call Kyle quiet.
“He likes to put on a show that he’s a man of few words, but don’t let him fool you,” she said. “In the house, he adds a lot of energy. In high school, when he would wake up, he would wake us up by yelling a quote.”
The siblings continue to support and serve as a sounding board for each other through the ups and downs of college life and athletics. Alyssa hasn’t had as big a role with UNC as Kyle has with Maryland, but in true Long fashion, she continues to compete for her time. It’s all the siblings know.
“I think we both made each other better through the years,” said Kyle Long, an initiator out of the Maryland midfield who was a second-team All-American in 2021 and ranked third on the team with 25 assists (plus 17 goals) in 2022. “Sometimes, it’s not good to compare, but there was always a little comparison, and it was really awesome.”
Their mutual journey toward the pinnacle of college sports has kept the family tightly connected to each program. Kyle Long was thrilled the day before he helped Maryland down Cornell to see his younger sister, who always followed in his footsteps, win a national title.
“I was happy for her and her teammates,” he said. “It’s such a grind getting to Memorial Day weekend.”
And when Alyssa Long’s team won, she didn’t hesitate to join her parents in flying up to witness first-hand her brother’s title contest the next day.
“When your sibling is close to accomplishing his dream, there’s no question that you’re there for him,” she said. “It was tough to not go back on the bus and be there with my team that night, but being there to watch him win, it made all 21 years of my life watching him trying to succeed worth it.”
Their Memorial Day embrace was the surreal culmination of years of competition and caring. The Long family knew exactly how hard Alyssa and Kyle had worked to share that moment and memory together.
“We’re very thankful that they both won,” Cathy Long said. “It made for a very nice summer that they were both champions.”