“Connor has never liked to brag,” said Mark Kelly of the younger of his two sons that include Bronson Kelly, a 2015 graduate of and former midfielder at Johns Hopkins.
“He is a thinker," Mark Kelly added. "If you ask him a question, he might not come back with an obvious answer. When he was young, he’d be in the backseat of the car with his hands pressed up against his face. I’d ask him what he was doing, and he’d answer, ‘I’m thinking!’
“Growing up, Connor was a so-so lacrosse player. He looks at lacrosse like a chess game now. He thinks outside the box.”
Kelly excelled at numerous youth sports, including football and hockey. His father recalled a turning point for Connor, when he was cut from the varsity hockey team as a sophomore at Fairfield Prep, which he attended before transferring to Avon.
“All of his friends made the team, but Connor got cut,” Mark Kelly said. “I think his attitude about sports changed after that. He took it more seriously. Besides being a competitor, he started to become a kid who wanted to be a leader.”
By the time Connor Kelly got to Avon, he had changed.
Over three seasons under head coach Skip Flanagan, Kelly shifted between attack and midfield, had successful turns as a defensive midfielder, and went on to lead the team in scoring as a junior and senior. He helped the Winged Beavers to two Founders League titles and was an all-New England honoree as a senior.
On the football field, Kelly also proved to be an exceptional talent who rarely left the field. Over three years, he started at wide receiver and safety, returned kickoffs and punts and was the team’s punter and placekicker. As a senior, he led Avon to a league title and was the Founders MVP and all-New England.
“Connor is still as modest and self-effacing as he was when he got here,” Flanagan said. “We knew he was a talented player. His attitude was the same no matter what position we asked him to play. His approach was, ‘How can I help?’ All we did here was to enhance the foundation Connor’s family sent to us.”
Kelly drew serious interest from North Carolina and Duke, but Michigan was the only school to offer him a lacrosse scholarship before Maryland entered the picture during his junior year at Avon. He and Tillman clicked immediately, and after his official visit to College Park, Kelly signed on as a Terp.
Well before he had established himself as a dangerous weapon in the Maryland offense, Kelly was a fall ball newcomer getting used to academic demands and getting knocked around on the practice field.
“I was struck by how big and fast people were flying around the field. You learn pretty fast how gritty they are around here,” Kelly said. “Fighting is allowed [in practice], to a point. If you’re not going hard after a ground ball, you’re going to get your head knocked. I remember [former defenseman] Casey Ikeda checking the ball out of my stick as I dodged him. As I’m picking up the ground ball, Casey’s stick came down so hard on my arms. That got my attention.”
Kelly got enough of the Maryland coaching staff’s attention to stick as a second-line midfielder his freshman year. He appeared in 19 games and totaled eight points. In a sign of things to come, Kelly showed up on a big stage by erupting for three goals in Maryland’s NCAA tournament quarterfinals win over North Carolina. The Terps ended up losing the NCAA title game to Denver.
“It’s not like Connor came in super-talented and it happened like that,” said Maryland senior midfielder Adam DiMillo, snapping his fingers. “He really worked at it. He spent lots of [extra] time shooting, playing defense in practice, getting his nose dirty. Even now, every day he hits the reset button and is trying to get better at something.”
DiMillo has lived with Kelly, an economics major, for three years. The two share off-campus housing with six other players. He said Kelly has “no monster TV or video games” in his room and regularly reads books on leadership and business that pile up next to his bed.