This story initially appeared on Behind the Whistle, the official blog of the IWLCA, and is being republished with permission from the organization. Laura Field is the head coach at Fairfield University.
“The power of one is above all things the power to believe in yourself often well beyond any latent ability you may have previously demonstrated. The mind is the athlete; the body is simply the means it uses to run faster or longer, jump higher, shoot straighter, kick better, swim harder, hit further, or box better. Hoppie’s dictum to me, “First with the head and then with the heart,” was more than simply mixing brains with guts. It meant thinking well beyond the powers of normal concentration and then daring your courage to follow your thoughts.” — Bryce Courtenay, author
When I discovered this passage from “The Power of One” in high school, it quickly became the centerpiece of my ultra-cool quote wall and a message that I stared at daily for most of my athletic career. Depending on my mood, almost every line has spoken to me in different moments of my life. Almost two decades later, pieces of Courtenay’s passage seem even more relevant when I think about the challenges we have faced as coaches and leaders for the duration of the COVID-19 pandemic and the wild summer of 2020.
I don’t have to remind anyone in this community that 2020 has been a year of unrest and instability. Social distancing, social unrest, difficult and necessary conversations about how to be actively anti-racist and support Black Lives Matter as a movement to meaningfully improve the sport of women’s lacrosse has put many coaches in unfamiliar territory. As creatures of habit during the summer — recruit, run camp, repeat — we are now facing new challenges to our daily lives, and as coaches, we are simultaneously helping our athletes navigate the adversity of the dramatic changes to their prescribed journey through college. As my father is fond of reminding me, your life will be defined by how well you handle adversity. Anybody can deal with success. Anyone can manage good fortune. It is what you do when you are down that makes all the difference. Simply put, adversity is an opportunity to define yourself as a leader.
What I have learned in the last six months is that leadership in a pandemic — whether you are a coach or an athlete, a parent or a teacher — is measured in equal parts head and heart.
Leading with your head seems obvious and more familiar. Making intuitive decisions to be smart with your actions, safe and respectful of the greater good, has become a way of life for much of the county. In the time of COVID, our decisions and our choices have a ripple effect for good or for bad on everyone around us, and we are compelled to make decisions with the thoughts of others prioritized perhaps for the first time ever. Being a good member of your community, leading with your head, is a necessary part of life for all athletes and even more so now.