Ciccone’s recovery initially went well, but as the expenses piled up, he and his mother left Bedford Hills. They moved to New York at first and then to New Jersey, where his medical care wasn’t as good.
“Things got tougher,” Ciccone said. “It’s pretty expensive to basically exist. I needed help to get out of bed, eating and getting into bed, a lot. It was pretty rough for sure. Because we moved, we were more isolated. When we were in Bedford, people were close.”
Ciccone grew more isolated while recovering in bed for nearly 13 months after having emergency surgery to treat a life-threatening case of gangrene. It was a low point for Ciccone.
“It’s a pretty dismal existence,” he said. “You don’t realize when you’re in it how bad your mindset is. I kept getting more and more isolated. It was a pretty dark place for sure. I’ve always been pretty positive. Looking back, I realize it was so much worse.”
Things began to look up when he moved to Stamford, within 30 minutes of Bedford, and some locals organized Laxin4Tony in 2010.
“Angels are everywhere,” Ciccone’s mother said. “The [lacrosse] community became our angel.”
Members from the Fox Lane Youth Lacrosse organization put together the Laxin4Tony Jamboree to raise funds for Ciccone’s medical needs that were not covered by Medicaid. The tournament includes a first and second grade mini-jam as well as third- through eighth-grade divisions for boys and girls.
“Our objective is to make his life better,” said Brian Greene, one of the event organizers. “Tony was a member of our community, a kid who was a member of our athletic department. He got hurt playing for the Bedford Central schools. We want to support him.
“They’ve been able to give him the money to help. It’s gone from him not having anything to helping to support everything. And quite honestly, we think we can do much better.”
There are changes in store for Laxin4Tony for 2019. The event will be moved up from June to May to avoid overlap with summer club lacrosse events, and that move also could bring some cooler weather. Quadriplegics lose their ability to sweat, so on hot tournament days it’s hard for Ciccone to keep his body temperature down. Laxin4Tony will tie in with Bedford Central’s spring homecoming in May and make it a more all-encompassing event for the area.
“Tony did get hurt playing lacrosse, and we want the lacrosse community to embrace it, but I look at it as Tony could have got hurt playing badminton or tiddlywinks and we’d support him,” Greene said. “We try to go for the whole community, not just the lacrosse community.”
Whereas Ciccone once had a hard time watching lacrosse, he looks forward to his annual trips to the Laxin4Tony Jamboree. Players, parents, volunteers, coaches and officials pose for pictures with Ciccone, tell him what an inspiration he is, and enjoy lacrosse together to support his well-being.
“These kids from first to eighth grade, they’re having fun,” Ciccone said. “Everyone has a great time. I’ve met a lot of kids, and they seem to love the sport. We’ve had teams from as far as Pennsylvania. They want to come back. It’s hard to feel bad during that time. Everyone is smiling and having a good time. You can’t be there having a bad time. It’s positive and upbeat. Financially it helps a lot. It’s uplifting at the same time.”
The community rallies around him.
“It not only helps Tony, it presents an amazing opportunity for our youth lacrosse players all the way through our high school players to have a direct tie to a person that needs it,” Coughlin said. “This is unique to our community here, and they’re able to help. It provides a grounding point for the kids in our community. Part of being a good person is giving back to the people that need the help.”